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Dryspell = A Return to Fundamentals

However  brief, I know this game has valleys and peaks. – Jay-Z “Can I Live”

The dry spell or drought. Now  before I expound on this phenomenon most men in the dating marketplace (game) have experienced known as a drought, let me refine what I consider a “drought.” What I consider a drought is more than a simple sexless drought. The man experiencing a true drought as defined by me must meet ALL of the following criteria:

  • It mustn’t be by choice
  • Prostitutes cannot break the drought
  • Current FWBs or women in the rotation cannot break the drought
  • Anything under your personal preference of a 7 cannot break the drought

It mustn’t be by choice

If there’s a rare occasion in which a man decides to give up the game for personal reasons such as familial obligations, work, refocus, etc., then he has chosen to be in a voluntary drought. Therefore, a man who is actively engaging with the opposite sex to get laid but has not been getting laid has met this criteria.
Prostitutes cannot break the drought

I am not against men patronizing escorts. Escorts and prostitutes, when priced right, can lower the control attractive non-working women have on the sexual marketplace. Patronizing escorts becomes a problem when a man begins to rely on them for sexual intimacy. Generally speaking, as opposed to regular women, prostitutes are always available for a certain specific monetary price; therefore, they cannot be used to break a drought or dry spell.

Current FWBs or women in the rotation cannot break the drought

The old harem. If a man successfully has a few quality women in rotation, then he could possibly never be in a “sexless drought.” It is the goal for many men who are in the game, to have sex on demand with any of a nice rotation of 3 or 4 quality women. However, this drought I speak of can only include new conquests. Friends With Benefits (FWBs), therefore, cannot break a drought or dry spell.
Anything under your personal perference of a 7 cannot break the drought

In my city, New Orleans, the effort it takes to be intimate with a 9 (there are no 10’s in my eyes) is an order of magnitude harder than an 8, which is an order of magnitude harder than a 7, and so on. I will not fault any man for taking some easy pickings to quell his thirst. We don’t want any violence to occur. However, if you get laid with someone you consciously consider less than your most liberal sexual preference, then no improvement is made and thus the drought or dryspell persists.

 

A Return to Fundamentals

A man will do as he pleases. In my personal worldview, these are the elements to a true drought. The sharpening of a man’s game who is not necessarily interested in exclusive relationships could only occur from chasing new conquests. Of course, there is something to be done about the drought. You’ve guessed it, I am currently in a long unexpected drought. Therefore, the fundamentals of the game during a drought are more important than ever:

  • Approach, approach, approach, approach, approach, ……..
  • Escalate far as possible at initial interaction
  • Set up dates with optimal logistics

 

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Adopt an Abundance Mentality Immediately

In a very rare occurrence in which I can agree with a particular online website is the premise by which Plenty of Fish operates: there’s more fish in the sea. A large problem I see with my associates who struggle with women is that they have developed a scarcity mindset. Scarcity mindsets cause men to go to the club and literally fight over the women. Scarcity mindsets cause men to become white knights in hopes of saving a woman to then receive attention and sex from her, which never happens (fyi: I am not saying anything is wrong from saving someone in an emergency). Scarcity mindsets cause thirst on Instagram, thereby inflating the woman’s ego and increasing her sexual market “price.” All of these tendencies I’ve mentioned are classified with someone who has developed a scarcity mindset. These tendencies are counterproductive to being successful with multiple women.

Enter the abundance mentality: there’s more fish in the sea. As a man who has been proactively meeting more and more women since I’ve made my long-awaited return to the game, the abundance mentality may be more powerful than any other tool in the player’s toolbox. Approaching is key but understanding why a large volume of approaching is necessary, one must firstly adopt an abundance mentality. You might say, well in my city most of the women are fat, bitchy, have kids, married, boyfriend, in jail, etc. Nevertheless, there are still some gems left in your city, depending on its size. I made the following chart to further illustrate my point. It is a snapshot of available attractive black women ages 17-35 in New Orleans (Orleans Parish proper):

women chart of new orleans

 

It does not take a scientist to throw one  of these together for your city. Back to the point, scarcity mindsets make more sense in rural areas, where the women are actually scarce. In these somewhat rare cases, it may be important to become the big fish in a little pond. However, 80.7% of Americans live in urban areas, according to the 2010 Census. That’s 4 out of every 5 Americans. So for the vast majority of Americans, there is no need to have a scarcity mindset. My men, adopt an abundance mentality immediately so we can stop the violence in the club, lower the attractive woman’s ego, and increase the camaraderie between males thereby eradicating the phenomenon of white knighting.

The American Girl and the French Girl

After trolling the Magazine Street blocks for a bit after eating, I had garnered enough confidence to do a sober street approach in late night (9 pm or so). It was two 8ish white women having a talk. I interrupted their conversation, which was the American girl telling a story to the French girl. I used an indirect opener and here’s roughly the exchange:

Me: Excuse me, I don’t mean to interrupt but I was wondering if you all knew where there are some bars with non-alcoholic beverages.

Them: Right there is something, blah blah blah

Me to American Girl: So what was I interrupting that you were telling your friend?

American Girl: I was telling her about what happened with my ex the other day. She’s French.

Me to French Girl: Je m’apelle NolaMan

American Girl: It’s Jurr my pelle not Je m’appelle

Me: No, it’s Je m’appelle.

American Girl: Well, bon soir good night.

Me to American Girl:  Actually, it is nighttime so it is “bon nuit.”

American Girl: No, it’s bon soir since it is still evening (mind you it is past 9 pm)

Me to French Girl: Right now, is it bon soir or bon nuit?

French Girl to American Girl: It is “bon nuit” since it is nighttime.

American Girl to me: Ok, well we’re leaving now and if you want to see us, we’ll be in XYZ bar.

We shake hands, exchange names, then American girl pulls French girl away to the bar. I should have gotten the French girl’s number. Oh well. I do not want to sound like someone who is bitter from mistreatment from the women of this country. I must’nt learn to hate my countrywomen. However, when I get dealt with in this manner, it is hard not to. The French girl, while a bit shy, was polite and not interrputing what I had to say and would comment as see fit. The American girl would in opposite fashion, even going as far as insisiting she was correct (it’s bon soir not bon nuit) to save face since she obviously did not know French. The next country awaits my visit in less than 2 months!

3 Ways Black Women from New Orleans Suck

So when you participate in discourse about the most desirable black women in the United States, you hear about Atlanta’s black women with their Georgia peaches and southern hospitality, New York black women with their sophistry and class, and Los Angeles/Cali black women with their cool demeanor and laid back attitudes. Every once in a while however, New Orleans black women would be thrown into the discussion and positive attributes such as the Creole Lady Marmalade, voodoo sex dolls, and black southern belle would be released out of someone’s mouth. Not…. so….fast, buddy.

Aside from the few things that make New Orleans black women palatable, such as being able to twerk better than possibly the entire world, wearing tight outfits with heels at the club, and being above average in looks for black women of American cities, a lot of black women in this town have negative attributes that make you want to wring their necks. Here they are:

1. The attractive black women of New Orleans don’t answer the phone/respond to texts and are super flaky

I am sure this occurs other places. However, this just does not occur as much in other places I have been. Just to recap on what I am taking about is the tendency of attractive black women from New Orleans who decide to give you their phone number but decide to not answer the call or respond to text. Even worse, women will agree on a date with you then cancel at the last-minute due to any number of reasons. Okay cool, things happen and lots of the time and she cannot meet. However, some reasons are not reasons but excuses in my opinion, such as, “i feel sick (but talking to me in a normal voice)” and “my friend is having a crisis.”  I am back in the game after a 6 year and some change LTR (long-term relationship) that went awry. The game, today, has shifted into another paradigm since I was last involved in 2008. Texting is the normal form of communication and talking on the phone is “old school.” Flakiness has increased tenfold from what I can remember. One reason I characterize the black women of New Orleans this way is because I meet black women in New Orleans who are from other cities and they don’t have these extreme flake tendencies. When I text, they text back. When I call, they pick up. When I invite them to meet up, they show up.

2. They wear too many unnecessary accessories

In America, the model of feminine desire is the thin woman with big tits and long-flowing hair. Black women can fit the thin part and even accentuate it with their own better tits and or bigger butts. However, the long-flowing hair does not occur naturally in most black women. The women who lack the ability to have this type of hair accommodate this “shortcoming” by applying relaxers into their hair even early in childhood. These relaxers are largely the culprit which causes hair problems later on in adulthood. Hence, the weave and extensions sprout up and they are here to stay. I do not have a problem with weave per se. I oftentimes do not like the way they smell. Perhaps I can invent a weave air freshener and make them smell better. I try to be empathetic as possible in regards to extensions, however, they are not as essential as black women tend to make them. Well done weaves and natural hairstyles can work well.

Weaves are not the main reason, I’m writing this, I am writing this to bring awareness to shame the use of fake eyebrows. These are the worst things to happen to the black women since Scrillex haircuts. Women in New Orleans are always striving to the be the most up-to-date in fashion which sometimes backfires. These eyelashes are not attractive at all. Take them out and throw them in the garbage.

Lastly, the amount of makeup that these women wear is disgusting. The times I have woken up beside a woman who had removed her makeup who appeared to not be the same person is astronomical. I prefer for a woman to wear minimal makeup. There’s no need to hide the acne with endless makeup. It gets on my clothes and bed sheets and is hard to wash out. We as men don’t wear that, why should you.

3. The majority of them are fat

New Orleans has unfortunately remained in the top 10 cities for highest murder rate since I was born in 1986 and a long time before that as well. The vast majority of people who die from these violent crimes are young black men from about ages 16-35. This would suggest that there are many more black females in this age range than males. The numbers suggest that this is true. This is a travesty that goes on in many major American cities, the loss of life of the black male. Also, a larger number of black males are incarcerated since they are largely the perpetrators in these crimes in New Orleans. Since a smaller number of black males exist in New Orleans due to violent crime and incarceration, there could only be a surplus of black women. That is correct but also problematic. The loss of the black male in cities across the United States is a major problem indeed. From a sexual marketplace standpoint, the black men in this age range who are not incarcerated and are alive are in a position to gain from this. Simple supply and demand economics: less males around = less competition/more males = more competition.

So getting back as to why this is problematic brings us to another dimension of the sexual marketplace of black New Orleans. Just go ahead and blame the greasy food, the carefree attitude, babies, American diet, fast food, the over-reliance on motor vehicles, poverty, the boogeyman, voodoo, Obama, or anyone else except the person in the reflection on the mirror on why in the hell there are sooooooooooooo many fat and overweight black women in New Orleans. The “advantage” in the sexual marketplace for living black men due to the decrease in males due to violent crimes and incarceration in New Orleans is negated since there are so many fat and overweight black women. Overweight and fat women are undesirable but they are aplenty in New Orleans. For you rare chubby-chasers and Shallow Hals out there, you will have a feast in New Orleans.

But guess what???? There’s a solution: Fat and overweight ladies, simply eat 25% less food than before and you will begin to lose weight and become more desirable to higher quality males. Cut your meal into four equal pieces and don’t eat one of the pieces.

Discussion

If New Orleans’ black women were to resolve these three things about themselves, New Orleans will be able to again boast as having the most beautiful black women in the United States with the Creole Lady Marmalade titles among everything else. Ladies, simply fix these three things and you will get your Pelican or Saint almost instantly. Ladies, I say all this because I love you am not afraid to tell you. Now, the woman beneath this has kids what’s your excuse? Because she’s rich, no, she takes care of herself.

vanessa williams and kids

 

3 Simple Steps to Watch FREE Live NFL Online

TV is just something I hardly watch. One of the very few exceptions to that is watching NFL football. I do not own a TV and am online a lot at home and at work so watching NFL football works best for me on my computer if I am not going to sports bras/sports bars. I stumbled on this website in week 7 of this season. There’s not many other ways to describe it besides: IT’S THE SHIT! Here are three steps to watch free live NFL online:

  1. Go to the following website: http://www.wiziwig.tv/competition.php?part=sports&discipline=americanfootball
  2. Click “live”
  3. Click where it says “play now!” (Make sure it is one of the flash channels so you do not have to download anything)

And Voila! Free football on your computer. Thank me later.

Geaux Saints! 5-8

Giving up ‘insert addiction here’ for Lent

I was raised a catholic in New Orleans and have since grown astray from the church. I consider myself to be agnostic and respect others’ religious choices. Just please please please please please, don’t try convert me to your religion or I will get mad. A few rituals exist, however, that I can appreciate from the catholic church. One of these rituals is lent which begins on Mardi Gras Sober-Up Day, Ash Wednesday. I look at it as a reinforcement of a New Year’s Resolution which I have halfway failed at maintaining and to add a few other vices to the mix. I celebrate this holiday as it challenges me to be a better person. For this lent, I gave up cursing as well as drinking alcohol. There will be no cursing in my posts until at least Easter 2012.

Now, I have had my people in town for Mardi Gras weekend and a few days after Mardi Gras, so I did not begin my ritual until that following Sunday ;-). Thus far, I am being pretty faithful to it. Temptation is literally right around the corner though. My co-worker is throwing a party next week and has already declared that the bottles will be flowing all night long. I will have to do as years past and drink red bulls and energy drinks so I can jitter and convulse like being in the Magnolia Projects on New Years Eve in 1999.

Giving up ‘insert addiction here’ for Lent

I was raised a catholic in New Orleans and have since grown astray from the church. I consider myself to be agnostic and respect others’ religious choices. Just please please please please please, don’t try convert me to your religion or I will get mad. A few rituals exist, however, that I can appreciate from the catholic church. One of these rituals is lent which begins on Mardi Gras Sober-Up Day, Ash Wednesday. I look at it as a reinforcement of a New Year’s Resolution which I have halfway failed at maintaining and to add a few other vices to the mix. I celebrate this holiday as it challenges me to be a better person. For this lent, I gave up cursing as well as drinking alcohol. There will be no cursing in my posts until at least Easter 2012.

Now, I have had my people in town for Mardi Gras weekend and a few days after Mardi Gras, so I did not begin my ritual until that following Sunday ;-). Thus far, I am being pretty faithful to it. Temptation is literally right around the corner though. My co-worker is throwing a party next week and has already declared that the bottles will be flowing all night long. I will have to do as years past and drink red bulls and energy drinks so I can jitter and convulse like being in the Magnolia Projects on New Years Eve in 1999.